Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Strengths Finder Test

Two weeks ago, I had a training meeting at the writing center where I work. We took a test that diagnosed our personalities and gave us what our strengths are. The purpose of the workshop was to understand, appreciate, and improve our strengths to work better with others.

I have to admit that during the test, I occasionally talked with my co-workers and I went too slow on some of the questions (it was a timed test). But I think some of the results are pretty accurate.

My top five themes:
Connectedness
Input
Learner
Responsibility
Developer

What do these mean? Well . . .

Connectedness

"Things happen for a reason. You are sure of it. You are sure of it because in your soul you know that we are all connected. Yes, we are individuals, responsible for our own judgments and in possession of our own free will, but nonetheless we are part of something larger. Some may call it the collective unconscious. Others may label it spirit or life force. But whatever your word of choice, you gain confidence from knowing that we are not isolated from one another or from the earth and the life on it. This feeling of Connectedness implies certain responsibilities. If we are all part of a larger picture, then we must not harm others because we will be harming ourselves. We must not exploit because we will be exploiting ourselves. Your awareness of these responsibilities creates your value system. You are considerate, caring, and accepting. Certain of the unity of humankind, you are a bridge builder for people of different cultures. Sensitive to the invisible hand, you can give others comfort that there is a purpose beyond our humdrum lives. The exact articles of your faith will depend on your upbringing and your culture, but your faith is strong. It sustains you and your close friends in the face of life’s mysteries. "


Very true. I do feel strongly that no matter where we come from or who we are, we can always find some common ground. Parents love their children everywhere. Love feels the same anywhere, although it doesn't necessarily manifest itself in the same way. I like how it said, "sensitive to the invisible hand," I'll just call it the Spirit. I'm trying to be sensitive to it. If anything, this theme tells me that my faith is a part of me, not just something I do once a week on Sunday or say to others. I believe that we are all brothers and sisters and we should treat each other that way.



Input

"You are inquisitive. You collect things. You might collect information—words, facts, books, and quotations—or you might collect tangible objects such as butterflies, baseball cards, porcelain dolls, or sepia photographs. Whatever you collect, you collect it because it interests you. And yours is the kind of mind that finds so many things interesting. The world is exciting precisely because of its infinite variety and complexity. If you read a great deal, it is not necessarily to refine your theories but, rather, to add more information to your archives. If you like to travel, it is because each new location offers novel artifacts and facts. These can be acquired and then stored away. Why are they worth storing? At the time of storing it is often hard to say exactly when or why you might need them, but who knows when they might become useful? With all those possible uses in mind, you really don’t feel comfortable throwing anything away. So you keep acquiring and compiling and filing stuff away. It’s interesting. It keeps your mind fresh. And perhaps one day some of it will prove valuable. "


I do not collect butterflies, baseball cards, or stamps, but I do like to collect certain kinds of information--mostly travel-related, artistic, musical, and literary or written information. I want to know all I can. I want to read all I can (even though I haven't read as much as some of my peers). I want to learn more artistic and homemaking skills. I want to sing way more than I do. I want to gather as much music and I can. So much to do, so little time.



Learner

"You love to learn. The subject matter that interests you most will be determined by your other themes and experiences, but whatever the subject, you will always be drawn to the process of learning. The process, more than the content or the result, is especially exciting for you. You are energized by the steady and deliberate journey from ignorance to competence. The thrill of the first few facts, the early efforts to recite or practice what you have learned, the growing confidence of a skill mastered—this is the process that entices you. Your excitement leads you to engage in adult learning experiences—yoga or piano lessons or graduate classes. It enables you to thrive in dynamic work environments where you are asked to take on short project assignments and are expected to learn a lot about the new subject matter in a short period of time and then move on to the next one. This Learner theme does not necessarily mean that you seek to become the subject matter expert, or that you are striving for the respect that accompanies a professional or academic credential. The outcome of the learning is less significant than the 'getting there.'"


I do love to learn. I want to learn about so many things that I don't think I could become an expert in any of them. I do enjoy the journey, but I also enjoy the feeling of competence in an area. I have to think of that goal before I start a difficult process of learning something; otherwise, I'll burn out.


Responsibility

"Your Responsibility theme forces you to take psychological ownership for anything you commit to, and whether large or small, you feel emotionally bound to follow it through to completion. Your good name depends on it. If for some reason you cannot deliver, you automatically start to look for ways to make it up to the other person. Apologies are not enough. Excuses and rationalizations are totally unacceptable. You will not quite be able to live with yourself until you have made restitution. This conscientiousness, this near obsession for doing things right, and your impeccable ethics, combine to create your reputation: utterly dependable. When assigning new responsibilities, people will look to you first because they know it will get done. When people come to you for help—and they soon will—you must be selective. Your willingness to volunteer may sometimes lead you to take on more than you should. "


This is one that I'm not sure completely fits me. Aspects of it fit me for sure, and this one has been on my mind lately. While I do take ownership of my tasks and often take on more than I can handle (because I love when people think to ask me for help--see the previous post), I think I feel more emotionally and professionally bound to the person rather than the task or maintaining my good name (although keeping my good name is definitely a concern). When I read that part about taking on too much, I laughed out loud. That's me. I can't say no. Sometimes I don't know my limitations. I'm not complaining. I love doing all the things I do, but sometimes I don't know what I was thinking.



Developer

"You see the potential in others. Very often, in fact, potential is all you see. In your view no individual is fully formed. On the contrary, each individual is a work in progress, alive with possibilities. And you are drawn toward people for this very reason. When you interact with others, your goal is to help them experience success. You look for ways to challenge them. You devise interesting experiences that can stretch them and help them grow. And all the while you are on the lookout for the signs of growth—a new behavior learned or modified, a slight improvement in a skill, a glimpse of excellence or of “flow” where previously there were only halting steps. For you these small increments—invisible to some—are clear signs of potential being realized. These signs of growth in others are your fuel. They bring you strength and satisfaction. Over time many will seek you out for help and encouragement because on some level they know that your helpfulness is both genuine and fulfilling to you."


I do enjoy seeing improvement in the students that come in to the writing center. Even if they just realize that they're missing a comma or something small like that, I usually make a big deal about it, so they know that they are improving.



In general, the themes covered me pretty well. I think there were twenty or thirty characteristics, and the presenter said that each of us has some combination of all of them. She also said that the purpose of the program is to be aware of who you are, learn to appreciate your own strengths, and use them to your and others' benefit. I will try to use my powers for good!!

Friday, January 22, 2010

I Live for Little Moments

I need to appreciate these, and many other little moments, more often. They are silly, they happen all the time, but they provide true joy in life.

I love when...
-all the traffic lights ahead turn green.
-Tracy lets me hold the remote and decide what to watch (meaning not sports).
-I find a diamond in the rough at a garage sale for super cheap.
-the last adorable shirt is my size and is on sale.
-Tracy makes dinner, so I don't have to after a long day (even if he's had a long day too).
-I get a text from my sister or a really good friend telling me a funny story.
-I organize a small corner of our landfill-like apartment.
-people think to ask me for help with something.
-I can cross off the last item on a long to-do list.
-the total of a purchase comes to an exact dollar amount.
-I catch the clock at 12:34 p.m.
-I call home and hear my little sister call my name excitedly in the background.
-my niece says she wants to be like me.
-Tracy calls me his pretty lady.

Little moments or God's tender mercies are everywhere. I don't think I can write all of the down, and even if I did, I don't think anyone would want to read all of them, except me. I'm so happy for them, and I wouldn't trade them for anything.

Friday, January 8, 2010

Let's Go to the Movies!!

When we lived in Washington, Tracy and I avoided movie theaters like the plague. We were on a tight budget, and movie theaters suck out at least $7 per person--for the matinee price!!

Here in College Station, Texas, while we are still on a budget, one matinee ticket costs $3.50. It cost just $7 for both of us to see a movie today. Not bad, not bad at all. We thought about buying popcorn with our savings--yes, we just thought about it. We could use what we saved for another movie another time. haha!

We still probably won't see every movie in the theaters. After all, we're official fans of Redbox now. But if we do want to go the movies, we don't have to feel like we're completely wasting our money.

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

English 777: Christmas as Literature---Merry Christmas!!

I'm sorry if I get a little too deep, loquacious, English major-y, or preachy in this post. I write about things I care and think about, and I count the content this post as one of those things.

Other than reading books, poems, and short stories I love for assignments, one of my favorite things about having been an English major is interpreting symbols and meaning in texts. Symbols allow us to understand abstract concepts more clearly. Likewise, one of my favorite things about Christmas is that it is completely filled with fun symbols and interpretation.

Some meanings of symbols are easy to see.

Candles and twinkle lights represent the light that Christ brings to the world. Even during dark nights, their, and His, light can be seen.




Wreaths symbolize the endless nature of God's love and the eternal life we can have with Him.



Just as the evergreen (especially the now popular fake tree) never dies, the love of Christ never fails or fades.


The star guided the shepherds and kings to the Savior just as He guides us through life back to Him.

Gifts symbolize the gifts brought by the kings and, obviously and more importantly, the gift God provides for us--His Son (John 3:17).



Candy canes resemble shepherd crooks. (Shepherds are one of my favorite symbols in Christianity. I'll talk about shepherds more later.)



The humble setting in which the Savior was born foreshadowed His living conditions through life--humble and lowly.

It seems that almost everything about Christmas points to the Savior. But lately, a few symbols or representations have stuck out to me.
As I thought about how "cold" it is getting, I started wondering what winter had to do with Christmas, other than that's when we have this holiday. Why is the celebration of the Savior's birth in the season when much in nature dies?
Again, I might be stretching here, but these are the thoughts I had. The birth of the Savior, as miraculous and beautiful as it was, only served to bring Him to the earth for His real purpose: to atone for the world, to save the natural man, to help us return to Him. Before He came, fallen mankind had spiritually died or was spiritually separated from God. Before He came, people could only hope that He would come to save them. "The hopes and fears of all the years are met in [Bethlehem] tonight" ("O Little Town of Bethlehem"). His birth interrupts this state, and when He performed the Atonement, was crucified, and was resurrected, He overcame man's fallen state, a spiritual death or separation from God. We can now experience a rebirth and live again with God because of Jesus Christ. Similarly, Easter, the celebration of His death (and obviously His Atonement and Resurrection as well), comes at a time when life in nature is restored. In this way, nature serves as a symbol for man's relationship with God.

There are so many meanings, messages, and responsibilities associated with shepherds. When we refer to the Savior as our shepherd, we usually think of the one lost sheep He saves (Luke 15:4-7) and how that applies to all of us. We also think of our roles as stewards to help those around us by feeding His sheep (John 21:15-17). I love these interpretations; they add so much depth to my understanding of the Savior and my relationship with Him.
But I've come to see shepherds in a different light as well. Jesus repeatedly says, "I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine" (John 10:14). At BYU my New Testament professor, Dr. Parker, told a story about a shepherd he met in Israel. When Dr. Parker approached this shepherd, he noticed that the shepherd was wearing a bulging sling closely tied across his chest. Drawing closer, Dr. Parker realized the shepherd had an injured lamb in the sling. When asked how the lamb was injured, the shepherd admitted to breaking the lamb's leg--on purpose. He said that the lamb would not come when he called its name, so he broke the lamb's leg, so that it would need to be held close to him and learn to recognize his voice and come to him when beckoned. This story has meant a lot to me as I have gone through difficult times. Sometimes we need to endure trials to know Him more, to recognize His voice, to follow when we are beckoned.


In ancient and modern Israel, shepherds cared for the sheep that would be used for sacrifices. But in Exodus, the Lord says that only a firstborn lamb can be used for specific sacrifices (Exo. 13:2-3). So shepherds must witness the birth of the firstborn lamb and present that firstborn lamb for a sacrifice. In the Christmas story, after they witness the birth of the baby Jesus, the shepherds "made known abroad the saying which was told them concerning this child," this Messiah, this Savior, this Firstborn Lamb of God (Luke 2:17). They are witnesses of the Lord Jesus Christ. In this way, we need to be shepherds just to bear witness of the divinity of the Savior. At this time of year, I feel it is appropriate to share my feelings about the reason we have this holiday. I testify that I know Jesus Christ is the Savior of the world and that He lives and loves each of us. He was born that He might live to save us from our sins, to die, and to live again.




Merry Christmas, everyone!! Enjoy the wonderful spirit of the season!!!!

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

OH, FUDGE!!!!

I have decided to carry on a family tradition--making fudge kisses!! I called Mom and asked for all her secrets and tips, had everything set out, and documented every second of this monumental occasion.

I wore the apron this high because I didn't want my sweater to get dirty. I didn't care about my pajama pants. It looks dorky, but it works.
This is me showing my apprehension... here we go!!
All the fudge is gone already!!! Just kidding. This is after I loaded up the kisses.
Even though this looks like crap, it's leftover fudge. Big difference.
Cooling fudge kisses. Sorry this one is oriented wrong. Just turn your head to the side.
In the end, I am pleased with the results. I think I did everything right, even though I made a mess when I poured fudge into the kiss molds. Not bad for my first time. Thus, the tradition is passed on to the next generation, and the circle of life continues.

Friday, December 4, 2009

Baby, It's Cold Outside

Here in Texas, Tracy and I have the chance to postpone turning on the heater as long as possible. Through days of 50-degree weather, we have enjoyed a cool apartment. I think I could get used to this kind of weather.

We just barely turned the heater on last night because it is 40 degrees today. It even "snowed." brrrrr.... This is probably the coldest it will be all winter. Assuming today will be the coldest, Tracy and I are pretty determined to leave our winter coats in the boxes, but we aren't above bundling up.

I like these little bits of cold in December. It's just enough to want and need hot chocolate and, for mom, start a fire in the fireplace. It's just enough to cuddle up in a blanket and feel perfectly content. It's just enough to make it feel like Christmas.

What a wonderful time of the year!!!